"Nothing is impossible
4 Questions to Ask
Before Filing for Divorce
Finding Help When Your Marriage is in Trouble
Nearly a year after Tom admitted his affair with a co-worker, Sally cannot forgive him. She considered divorce, but Sally takes their wedding vows seriously and doesn’t want to abandon nineteen years of marriage. Besides, Tom is a good father to their teenagers. Tom wants desperately to regain Sally’s trust but doesn’t know how to begin to repair the damage to their marriage.
Introduction To The Annulment Process
Are you planning a Catholic wedding for a second marriage? You want to get married, but you have been married previously. You know that the Catholic Church will consider you bound to your first marriage until an annulment is granted. Beside the doctrinal foundations of the Catholic faith that are relevant to any possible second marriages, there are also a million “what if?”s that have a practical impact on each person’s situation after being civilly divorced from a previous marriage.
We're only separated, ....now what?
Divorce is hard enough, but separation has its own unique pain because there's no finality, no apparent moving back or forward. It's relationship "limbo". The first thing to do is stay open to reconciliation, if possible.
Each situation will require certain steps but for most couples this is a time for patience, practical planning and doing the following:
Patron Saints for those who experience divorce
The mother of Constantine, St. Helen (249-329 ) found the True Cross in Jerusalem and, for many centuries, devotion to St. Helen has been linked to devotion to the Holy Cross. But there is another, sadder facet of Helen’s life. After 22 years of marriage, Helen’s husband, Constantius, divorced her.Sources are also unsure as to the exact nature of their relationship: some say it was a legal marriage, others a common-law marriage; some say she was his wife, others his concubine. Whatever the specifics, the two were in a relationship that produced an heir, Constantine, around the year 272 AD. They remained together for at least 15 years, but in 289 Constantius, who was Roman Emperor Caesar, divorced Helena to enter into a politically advantageous marriage with a younger woman, Theodora, who was the step daugher of Maximian, Roman Emperor Augustus at the time. Today, as civil divorce becomes more prevalent, St. Helen is offered to unhappy spouses as a heavenly patron who can truly sympathize with their anguish and offer prayers and on their behalf. St Helen, pray for us!
He was King of Orleans and Burgundy in 561 and had married a woman named Mercatrude, which means Peacemaker. He later divorced her for another woman. Later, when she fell seriously ill, and her doctor could not cure her, King Guntramnus had her doctor murdered. Eventually he converted to Catholicism and felt deep remorse for his past life.
Guntramnus recognized the Lord had been merciful him, so he in turn was merciful to others. Even those who tried to assassinate him were only imprisoned and not killed as others might have done. One man, who attempted to stab the king, took refuge in a church and Guntramnus let him go free. He was fair to everyone and treated his subjects as his own family. He spent much time in prayer and fasting, and built several churches and monasteries. St. Gregory of Tours writes that he was an eyewitness to miracles performed by St. Guntramnus. On March 28, in the year 592, King Guntramnus died at the age of sixty-eight. In the sixteenth century, Huguenots scattered his ashes, but his skull remained untouched and is kept in a silver box in St. Marcellus Church. Guntramnus is the patron saint of divorced people, guardians, and repentant murderers. He is usually depicted in art as a king with three treasure chests, one of which has a globe and a cross on it. St. Guntramnus, pray for us!
St. Eugene de Mazenod
Eugene de Mazenod was a member of the French nobility. His mother, Marie-Rose, was convent educated and wealthy. Charles-Antoine, his father, was an aristocrat, educated in the classics but poor. A serious factor in the marriage was the constant interference from Marie-Rose's jealous mother and neurotic sister. When she wed Charles-Antoine, Marie-Rose's family stipulated that the dowry given by them remain in her name.
In 1791, during the French Revolution, the de Mazenod family was forced into exile in Italy to avoid the guillotine. In 1795, leaving her husband and son behind in Venice, Marie-Rose returned to France with Eugene's sister. Once back home, she divorced Eugene's father, took back her maiden name and aided by her mother's shrewdness, successfully recovered her dowry. She later wrote to her ex-husband saying "You now have nothing."
After eleven years in exile, Eugene returned to Aix at his mother's request, where he struggled to reunite his family. He also endeavoured to regain the family's holdings which had been lost during the revolution.
In 1808 Eugene entered the seminary in Paris, worked diligently with the poor, and eventually became Bishop of Marseilles, France, in 1837 and his influence extended not only locally but throughout the world. Before his death, the order of priests he founded, the Oblates of Mary Immaculate, (over 400 men) had spread to ten countries throughout the world.
De Mazenod died as Archbishop of Marseilles on 21st May 1861 and his tomb is located in the chapel of that city's cathedral. When he died his heart was removed and preserved - a custom not uncommon in the 19th Century. A portion of the preserved heart was placed in a reliquary and taken to the United States in 1964. The re-gilded reliquary was then enshrined in the Blessed Sacrament Chapel at the Oblate-owned "Lourdes Grotto of the Southwest" in San Antonio, Texas. He was canonized in 1995 by Pope John Paul II. St. Eugene, pray for us!